When you travel a lot like me, relationships are hard to maintain. Yet I do get lonely sometimes and it would be nice to have that one special person in your life you can turn to when you want to share something and go out with.
After my Filipino dating experience, I find myself a little reluctant. For there it was too easy to date. I got a few marriage proposals each month from random strangers ready to walk the altar with me. And don’t get me wrong, they were serious.
When I started dating there I realized very fast that it was out of economic sense more than out of love.
But I did have a few relationships in the Philippines and I dated a few men. And I learned a lot, mostly about myself
So time to fill out a new profile on a Mexican dating site with that new-found knowledge.
The first ‘hi’ and ‘hello’s’ have been shared, but nothing much seems to be happening.
So I wondered how dating in Mexico is done, and what kind of men is the Mexican man? Time to do some google research before I jumped into the deep end.
I find mixed information and a lot of that is old also. What I find about Mexican men written from a white woman perspective and it sounds a bit like my experience in the Philippines:
Mexican men date often out of economic perspective rather than love
they are lazy
often married in secret with kids
more alcohol than a relationship can take
But those stories are from women in the tourist areas.
And then I have to take in consideration that that is the same everywhere in the world where women go on vacation. You find men like that, mostly young and willing to date any age, in every country in the world that has tourism, it comes with the industry.
And that is not the kind of man I am looking for,
They are mostly men looking for a sugar-mommy, a green card or quick sex without real commitment
I also find that Mexican men are
have a book full of hollow phrases to emphasize their feelings
believe in pursuing a woman
can be very persuasive to press you into a sexual relationship
They do not seem to be afraid to show feelings, not even in public and only introduce you to the family when they are serious.
The tips I gather on defining the serious dater in Mexico from the flirt:
If he is willing to take you on dates at multiple occasions without pressing you for sex
if he pays for dates
if he does all the romantic stuff and keeps doing it
if he takes you to family meetings
if he is attentive
then he might be serious.
I also find that it might be complicated to find a date because Mexican men work hard and long hours to sometimes even support family members like parents, and have a lot of family obligations. Mexicans have strong family ties and a strong sense of responsibility towards parents and siblings.
That sounds like a Filipino man with his heart in the right place
It sounds perfect for me, for I do not want a man to move in with me within a weeks time and I do need a lot of ‘me-time’ but I also like some daily (digital) attention.
For the rest, Mexican men, for all I can find on the Internet sound like all men, everywhere in the world: Chasers, dreamers and romantic at first.
What am I looking for in a man and will a Mexican man fit my profile?
What I am looking for is self-confidence and a man that knows his true value. A man who has something to offer in a conversation and has a view on world matters. But I also want him to stand on his own feet financially. I am nobodies sugar mommy.
Preferably he speaks English.
He has a life of his own but he is ready to fit me in too both our satisfaction and does not hesitate to contact me or open a door for me.
I need a person I can sit next to, sometimes even without speaking, that by his presence alone calms me down after a busy day, watches the moon with me and wonders about matters of life I want him to make me smile and laugh and I would love for him to court me in a romantic way.
Something like that,
Oh, and I am not too fond of facial hair.
Maybe it is time to get some real experience dating a Mexican man
So let the chase begin……Gentlemen, this lady is open for dates.
Jeanette, a Dutch female nomad, started to travel the world at the age of 17. Walker of beaches, shell searcher and iPhone photographer. Writer and owner of two websites
Currently, she lives in Mexico.
She is an emigration coach and works online.